How often do you find yourself making excuses about why you can’t do something? ‘I don’t have enough time’; ‘I feel so overwhelmed’ or ‘I have never been organized’, for example. We all have excuses why we can’t do something, but are they really excuses? Excuses are the reason we CAN’T do something and from my experience, most of our excuses are self imposed limitations.
Why do we do this? There are a number of reasons why, lack of motivation or desire or most often, it could be related to something on a deeper level, like procrastination. When we dig a little deeper we find that most of the time, we are our own worst enemies with time management. When we find our self procrastinating, we come up with all the best reasons why we are putting things off. However, most of the time they are just ‘false’ excuses and the worst is that we act on them.
Improving your time management skills is not only about learning processes and structures to manage your time better, but it is about who you are being. You see, on the surface level, you can implement all the techniques you want, but we forget about the deeper level. What is really going on? Why are you really struggling to manage your time?
Start to challenge your excuses if you want to improve your relationship with time management. When you find yourself coming up with an excuse why you can’t do something, try the following:
1. Write the excuse down. For example; I can’t get organized because I am feeling so overwhelmed, I don’t know where to start.
2. At the end of the sentence, add the word; ‘so…’ and add a small action step that you can easily take to improve the situation.
Here are a few examples:
• I can’t get organized because I feel so overwhelmed I don’t know where to start…so…I will break the task into smaller, manageable steps to get started
• I don’t have enough time…so…I will look in my schedule and see where I can plan and make time to do this
• I am too tired…so…I will only work for 10 minutes and then I can relax
These are just examples, of course, you want to write down anything that you can do to solve the problem, ie: your excuse. There are many reasons why this exercise is really powerful.
1. You break the cycle you usually find yourself in and you don’t reinforce it. When you continue to give yourself ‘false reasons’ why, you reinforce this habit which makes it harder to break one day.
2. You are taking a more proactive and empowered approach and you will feel this, you will start to feel more in charge of your life, rather than less so.
3. You develop a successful habit of challenging your own excuses and you will start to make less excuses on a regular basis, therefore achieve more.
4. Each action you take will add up. Think of a piggy bank, even if you put 10 cents a day, it will eventually add up. Your accumulated efforts will have a positive effect on your results.
5. You open your mind to being more creative and you develop your problem solving skills.
It is easy to look around you and blame everything and everyone for what you don’t do or believe you can’t do. The finger you are pointing however needs to be turned around and pointed back at you.
You have control, you decide what you do or don’t do. You have more strength inside you than you know.
Don’t forget – It is in your moments of decision that your destiny is shaped. – Tony Robbins
To Your Success
If you are really struggling to get a grip on time management; your solution is closer than you know.